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yes – we all dislike other people – that is a fact. but you need to stop thinking about the person you dislike – it is a waste of time.
and guess what – they are not thinking about you or the fact that you dislike them. you are the only one wasting energy in this area.
think about this – there are people that dislike you and you don’t think about them – right? – well do the same for the people you dislike – stop wasting space in your brain on them
there is no reason to worry.
yes, we all do worry. but you don’t have to worry anymore. you don’t have to worry because everything in your life is already predetermined. your path in life is already set. you don’t need to worry about anything. you just need to follow your path.
you need to establish a higher level mindset above all worry – above all fear. To know that your path is set and all you have to do is walk down it – frees your mind from all worry.
You don’t have to think why this or why not that. Everything is meant to be and happens for a reason because your path is already set in place.
This will allow you yo do whatever you want as long as you keep working hard and keep your resolve when times are tough.
Go get it! Do not overthink why did this happen or why did that happen. Everything happens for a reason to keep you on your predetermined path.
Put your mind above all actions, worries and fears – it is meant to be – go and be.
we don’t cry that much and in fact it is quite rare to cry. people never see you cry and they don’t even think that you do cry. crying is looked at in society as bad and sad and weak and vulnerable. we are always taught to be strong and not to cry – which is fine most of the time.
But – crying is needed every once in a while. Things can build up over time – the stress of life, etc – and then a trigger will set it off – a sensitive event – usually something with family sets it off and then you just have to let it go. You can then get all of your frustration out – it becomes a healthy, healing event – you see it as a good moment – a much needed moment. People will be shocked but that is ok – they see you as a human being with feelings – don’t be embarrassed – just embrace it.
crying is a restart button – a refresh button – a part of life that we don’t realize we need. but we do need to cry – it’s ok – cry and start again.
this is an important one because it can affect your life in a negative way
here is how it goes –
you finally say to yourself – “i don’t care”
i don’t care about what others think, i don’t care about what others say, i don’t care if we are not friends anymore, i don’t care if i don’t see you again, i don’t care, i don’t care
don’t get me wrong – it is a great mindset to free yourself from all this negative worrisome shit that has plagued you for so many years – not a debilitating plague – but just one that has always been there screwing with you
so yes – please say “i don’t care” BUT don’t take it too far
what happens sometimes with the “i don’t care” mindset is that you go too far and you starting arguing more with good people, you start causing issues with good people because you don’t care – you say – screw them – i don’t care – i am right, they are wrong – and this leads to conflict.
so – realize this is happening like i just did today and take a step back.
take a pause, take a chill pill, hold your gunpowder, think about meditating, make a change in your life to avoid conflict – this goes back to – know your audience – and just pulling back on the “i don’t care” mindset a bit.
in today’s post covid world where there is disagreement and division everywhere – you need to stay the course with your original mindset. this is the mindset that you had back in your 20s, 30s, 40s, etc – you were less cynical and more chill.
i do agree that as we get older, we need to not care that much anymore about other people – what they think, what they say, etc.
but, as we turn people off that give us negative vibes so that we can focus on the last remaining years without all the BS and static – we must not go too far as to alienate the good people – the ones that you do like but where you might have a different opinion about things like politics, etc.
if a person is a true friend, you should not care what political or religious views they have. keep that stuff out of the conversations and focus on the friendship.
if you do judge a true friend on their political or religious views, then you are wrong.
a quick fix to reduce arguments with people is to think about who your audience is before you say something that might cause an issue. you won’t be able to predict every time what will set people off but if you know the person fairly well, you can set some preset parameters before you open your mouth
the crazy thing is that i just discovered this viewpoint because i have been arguing with people lately where i thought there could be no conflicts.
the reality is that everyone thinks in different ways about different things – and i am not talking about fiery topics like politics – i am talking about everyday normal things
if the person is a true friend and you don’t want to lose the friendship – then pause slightly before you engage and don’t drop in topics that could set them off. i am not saying handle people with kid gloves -just monitor your conversations more to create less drama, issues, etc
to appreciate what we have in life, we must look at things with fresh eyes once in awhile. we always think about how our life can be better – how we can have better things – a better house, a better car, a better neighborhood, etc.
we don’t realize that we already have many of those things.
as time goes on, the things you have lose their luster and you get used to seeing those things every day -so you start to think – why can’t i have something else – something that is better than what i have right now. but in reality – we already have these things
how can you tell? – try the fresh eyes trick. when you drive into your neighborhood, pretend like you have never been there before. look at the streets, houses and trees like it is the first time you are looking at them. do this when you drive up to your home – look at it like it is the first time that you have seen this home. look at these things from a new objective perspective.
you will be shocked! you will say – wow, look at this neighborhood – look at this house – just like you did when you really did see them for the first time.
you will then see how lucky you are already. stop wanting for things that you already have – be grateful.
we must maintain a macro level view most of the time to keep things in order in our lives and to keep sane.
many times, we take the micro level view on things – we look at things very closely and we look at them over and over and over – and we over analyze all the time. these are all micro level views – which we do need to make decisions and to help move us forward in life.
micro and macro views on life work together to create a fulfilled and satisfying life. but many times we stay in the micro view too long on certain things -which can last days, weeks, months or years. this is not healthy and can lead us down rabbit holes that are hard to come back from – to the macro level again.
always start at the macro level with all things that you are thinking about. then go to the micro level to create your analysis and decision. but once that decision is made – quickly move back to the macro level and maintain the macro level view as your normal every day view.
if you get stuck in the micro level view – then force yourself out of that view
always go back to the macro level for sanity and clarity in life – it’s the only way to get down the road the right way
we will be challenged in the mind. we will have thoughts that are negative. we will have thoughts that are bad. we will have thoughts that are not in our best interest. we will have thoughts that will try to lead us in the wrong direction.
these are all the challenges of the mind. these are the thoughts of every human to ever live. these are the trial and tribulations of life. these are the thoughts that will cause us stress and give us pause to think about our path, our life, our choices. these are the thoughts that make us who we are, make us who we become and decide how we are remembered.
it is the battle of strength against weakness. will we be strong and push these thoughts out of our mind to reach our true destiny or will we be weak and take the negative path to a negative outcome.
we must fight to be strong. we must overcome our weaknesses
we must win the battle in our minds to fight against our weaknesses
without enemies you will not reach your goals
you must have enemies so that you will never give up until it is your time to go
if you give up before then – your enemies will win and have the last laugh
you must also maintain your integrity until the very end
never give your enemies any reason to say they were right about you – when you know they were the ones in the wrong
so having enemies serves 2 purposes –
-helping to push you through with integrity until the end
-helping you to never give up or give in
this is the reason that we gather enemies as we go through life – they help us along
