look – you spend your whole life trying to do and say what you want and not caring about what others think. you want to make everyone happy and you can try – but only your mind will suffer – and the people you are trying to keep happy won’t even know or care because they are also trying to get to the “not caring” stage of life. of course you care about your family and friends – but at the end of the day or at the end of life – it ain’t them lying there dying – it is you – and only you and your mind. but before you get there, you need to live your life and you need to do what you want to do. tell them “no”, tell them the truth, be straight, be forward, don’t waste time going round and round. don’t rethink things. say it and move on. yes, don’t be rude, but just say it like it is – don’t dwell on it. you must not care what anyone thinks – time is running out. if people can’t handle you talking straight to them – then they are not worth it. it is the test of life. you let them know – “this is what i think and that’s it.” they get it or they don’t. this is the test. you don’t care what other people think and they don’t care what other people think – then it is a match and it will work. be straight with them – that is the test. when you run the test, you get closer to not caring and you know who is with you and who is not. it is simple to understand but not simple to do.