facebook! who gave you permission to record my life? who are you? how did you get involved in my life? you act as a meeting place where friends and family can gather. you put up the front of being a familiar place -like my old high school, my old neighborhood, my old house –so very comfortable and soothing. this is all a front to record my life and pull me in to present my life to my friends and family–but also to you. you are watching my every move. you are recording my every moment. you are now in my life and are actually recording my life. stop recording my life. you should not be recording my life. who gave you permission? because i use your platform to talk to friends, you think you can take my data and record it back to me. i will record my own life and i will leave my own mark the way i want to leave it. i will not conform the story of my life to your parameters. where is the button to turn off this “timeline” thing? this is your master plan. gather, gather, gather –then publish my life and billions of others. get out of our lives and stop recording now — pause the program.
don’t talk about others
May 21, 2012you know we all do it. but when we do it, we reveal a part of ourselves that most don’t know about. people would be shocked to hear what you have to say about them behind closed doors. but the reality is you are doing yourself a disservice in the process. you are letting yourself down by saying mean things about others and then being nice to their face. you need to make both experiences the same – do not have conflicting thoughts about a person. imagine this…… you say something about someone and then immediately think that person heard you. you then panic and think –”what an ass i am” –but are you saying that about yourself because you think you are caught and now your other self will be revealed. you are acting selfishly because if you did not think you were caught, you would go on as normal –still talking shit about people. so–you feel bad and you say you will change. but it turns out the person did not hear and you can still keep your other thoughts a secret. you can go back to your old ways of talking shit….and most of the time you do. but you shouldn’t –this should be viewed as a close call and a warning to stop this BS. so, stop talking shit and bite your tongue once in a while. get in this habit of not talking about others so much and it will make everything more positive.
get hands dirty
May 9, 2012you must get your hands dirty to accomplish anything in this world. in other words –stop standing around waiting for others to do the job –because they won’t. you must get in there and make it happen. you must do the small jobs on your own and not delegate others to do it –because they won’t. if you start a job and then come up with a plan –and then do not do the things that the plan requires –you will fail. you must get in there and do every little thing that the plan requires. don’t be someone who draws up a plan and then expects others to do the plan. you must do the plan. you must get your hands dirty. yes, it is tedious work. yes, you believe that you have reached a point in your career where you don’t need to get your hands dirty anymore. wrong! if you are the ceo and shit needs to be done –then do it. just keep doing what you have to do to succeed. at the end of the day –if you want to keep getting paid –you must find a way to get things done. if this requires you to get your hands dirty over and over –just do it. waiting for someone else will lead to your failure. get your hands dirty –end of story. oh–and don’t complain so much. this is just another attempt to avoid getting your hands dirty. another way to failure.
Accountability
April 18, 2012if you don’t have it, you ain’t worth shit. really folks –if your word is no good, then it is going to be a long road for you. you must be true to your word. you must follow through with what you say. you must not break your word. you must not scuttle your promises. if you say it will happen at this time on this day –then, by shit, it better happen…..unless you have a death in the family. that is the only thing that should prevent you from keeping your word. because if you do decide to not be accountable for what you say you are going to do –then your life will end up worth no more than a pile of …. do you get it? be accountable or be non-committal. and being non-committal is no way to live a life. again –another pointless ending. so take the easy road which is actually the harder road –be accountable. it will be harder to be accountable, but it will make your path much easier. comprende?
do it when you shouldn’t
March 15, 2012you know what i mean? not really?? ok –listen closely. you know how most of the time you shouldn’t do things? this could be because you shouldn’t waste the money or the time, right? you need to save the money for a rainy day. you need to be more conservative in your actions so that you are covered in the future. that is all good –and is true for the most part. but guess what? you could drop dead tomorrow. and you will know folks that do just that….too soon. and each time someone does, you need to remind yourself that could have been you. and all the fretting about not doing something because your shouldn’t –that all goes out the window. so when you decide to throw that big bash at your house, but you could use the money for something else. think about how you could drop dead tomorrow. think about how you want to look back and say we had the most fun spending the money, when we shouldn’t have. someone said all we really have is this moment right now. we don’t have the past, we don’t have the future. we have this moment right now. so once in awhile you should live like you could drop dead tomorrow –because you could! what is it all for? it is for thinking about the future a bit –but it is also about thinking about now –it’s all you have that is guaranteed –right now. go do it, go live.
death
March 1, 2012death is strange. it depends on many factors on how you react to hearing of a death. if it is a death in the family, you can have immediate, uncontrollable crying –but the immediate part usually depends on the closeness to this family member. your mind tells you that this is major and it could affect your own life. you starting thinking of what you miss and all the things you used to do. you think about the warm touch you experienced –hugs, kisses –and how those will be gone. you think about conversations and good times. you think about the future and the wider uncertainty that has surfaced now. this will take time to overcome, but you do need to tend to the living and this will help move you forward. you think about your own mortality. yet–when it is a co-worker or acquaintance –one that you do not see every day or might not have seen in a few years –the reaction is different. you think more about “why” did this happen. you think more about the suffering of the family left behind. you do think about the good times that you shared and you do feel very sad. but you do not cry most of the time. you do think about your own fate a bit more. you do think about living for the moment. you do think that anything can happen at any time. you do understand that as your life goes own, others will die –but you don’t think about this fact until the next person passes. we can’t fully understand death and our reaction to it. this is a primal experience –one that beckons from our inner soul. but in the end, every thought we make clings to our own self-preservation. death is coming, so live for the moment, but plan for the future.
forgiveness
February 23, 2012it is very interesting how one comes about learning to forgive. i think our first instinct is not to forgive. you wronged me and i won’t forgive you. i gave you my trust and your threw it away. why should i forgive you if you did this to me. an eye for an eye is what we live by in our society. i am going to turn my back on you. i am going to forget all about you. you are dead to me. i will go on with my life without you. if it is not a true friend or family, then this is not a big deal to move on. but if it is a true friend or a family member, then you must seek the path of forgiveness. it is only during this exploration of what it means to forgive that you actually begin to become enlightened by the power of forgiveness. deep down we want to forgive and move forward. but our pride pushes against this concept of forgiveness. however when you realize that forgiveness is more about you –this is when a change occurs. look –as individuals we want to find comfort for ourselves. by forgiving you are finding comfort for yourself. it is true –forgiveness does free the soul. when you forgive, you free yourself from worrying about how you were wronged. you are free to move on and preserve the relationship. try it –it works. it is the only way you will lead an unburdened life.
loyalty
February 8, 2012ah–this is key in life. you must be loyal to your true friends. you must go out of your way for your true friends. you must be there whenever they call. you must do things that require extra effort. these are the friends that you will keep for life. these are the friends that always have your back. these are the friends that know all your secrets. these are the friends that will never leave your side. these are the friends that don’t fight with you anymore. these are the friends that are your family too. always be there for them and they will always be there for you. it is an unwritten code. you are lucky to have them and they are lucky to have you. be loyal to these true friends and you will never be alone. do not judge them and always forgive them. do not hesitate to support them. just do it. guilt should not come into play. be rid of feeling guilty when doing something for a loyal friend. because these are your true friends and loyalty is the currency you carry.
no guilt success
January 23, 2012you know –it is a funny thing when you start to become successful - but your mind can’t handle it. it is this whole guilt thing that lies on top of the mind like a wet blanket. it obviously stems from this guilt ridden society that we now live and grow up in. oh, we are made to feel guilty for some reason –about everything we do. one area that is not discussed much are the pangs of guilt one feels as they grow more successful. we still cling to the idea that we are not supposed to be this successful and we do not belong at this level. it is crazy when you think about it –we own the process of becoming successful –pushing hard, never giving up, etc–but when we get that success from this process –we pull back and say –”hey –I don’t deserve this”. and in return, these thoughts can actually start to hold us back a bit –i don’t deserve to make X, so I won’t ask for it –I will stay in my station. this is BS and you need to break from this restricting mindset. you deserve everything you work for –just like the rest of those bozos driving around in fancy cars. stop thinking and go get it! now!
modesty
January 19, 2012ah –this is one of the hardest things to practice. we want to be modest, we don’t want to be an ass –but our inner self always pushes to be in charge and over-confident. we are unstoppable and the world cannot live without us –and our job can’t do without us –we are too valuable to be let go! –obviously that is BS –but our inner voice does not know this –we are trained to be self-confident –but we must control these thoughts when our reputation, family, career are on the line. we must get back in line and not jump out suddenly, tossing away all thoughts of modesty -this will only lead to trouble. that is why when you are in a heated conversation –you must pause in your own mind and not say the absolute wrong thing –filter your words very carefully –and stay close to the modest line when in the thick of it –as you can always move forward from modesty in the future –but it is harder to back away from over-confidence and bravado. this is not easy and emotions get in the way –you say to yourself –i am the “shit” and i want my way. stop right there and go to modesty for the time being –it will help in the long run. i am not saying to cower and not stand up for what you have accomplished –you do have rights and value –but don’t make any fatal moves –and modesty and help you keep away from the fatal moves. even the most important person in the world must practice modesty –to remain relevant and to remain important in their own mind and in the world
